Do you remember being like 12 years old and planning out your life timeline? Like – where should you be at 25? Where should you be at 30?
Mine waffled between get married at 22, kids at 25, become an Olympic horseback rider at 28, have a million dollars by 30 AND famous actor by 20, retire and producer award winning documentary films by 28, date a younger male model by 30.
Would you like to guess how accurate those ended up being?
I’m sorry, I literally cannot stop laughing.
Obviously my timeline has drastically deviated from what I thought my “plan” was, and I am truthfully very thankful about that. I am at the perfect place in my life at 28 (for me) and really couldn’t imagine being anywhere else. That said, there have definitely been times at which I felt left behind, or that I maybe wasn’t meeting a certain benchmark.
I spent the majority of my early twenties struggling (seriously, I routinely didn’t know if I could even pay rent – I actually shared a bed with a roommate for a year while we lived in a two bedroom apartment with 5 people in Los Angeles). It wasn’t until a few years ago that I really figured out who I was, what I wanted, and how to create that life. My life now is amazing and getting better everyday, but I probably needed to go through some shit to learn the things that got me here.
BUT – there were a lot of days that I’d look at my more successful friends – getting major network deals, booking commercials, going to grad school, buying houses and cars – and would feel like a failure. Wasn’t I supposed to be making decent money with a solid career and a degree under my belt?
Truth is that there is no right age for anything and there are no benchmarks, except in your own head. LET GO! No one else is holding you to those standards, and if they are, it doesn’t really matter, because they’re not you, and it isn’t their life. Life takes weird, winding roads to get to where you want to be. The trick is to enjoy the ride and feel successful, happy, and grateful now. Where should you be at 25? At 30? At 40? Exactly where you are. It’s the perfect place to manifest your dream life from.
I’m getting married this year, and it still feels like a crazy step for me. I have a friend who’s almost forty having a baby, and it totally freaked her out. And I have friends in their mid twenties with 4 year old children who can talk to me in full sentences and they’re super happy with when they chose to start a family. I didn’t start making real money until my late twenties, and I didn’t realize what I really wanted to do for a living until 27. Some of my friends have been climbing the corporate ladder for years already and own beautiful homes, while I still pay an exorbitant amount of money to live in a 500 square foot studio (granted it’s by the beach and comes with an avocado tree in the backyard). The point is: your life takes a unique path that is absolutely perfect for you, even when it feels like it’s not.