We’ve all heard the saying “failure isn’t an option”, right? Okay, now what if I told you that saying is complete bullshit? You’ve probably been hearing that your whole life much like I have. Chances are if you’re anything like me you got in trouble every time you failed at something. Whether it was poor grades in school or having a meltdown in public (hello, childhood anxiety) you were probably punished in some way.
If this wasn’t the case for you, consider yourself lucky because you’re probably a pretty well-adjusted human being. For those who have been taught from a young age that failure is bad, this one’s for you.
Failure isn’t only an option but a necessity
First of all, if you never fail, how are you supposed to learn valuable life lessons? How are you supposed to grow as a human being without making a few mistakes along the way? If everything went perfectly all the time, you would never learn anything, and that’s the bottom line.
Failure is a necessary part of personal growth, and the truth is if you want to really succeed and are chasing after something big, you need to be prepared to fail a few times along the way. Let there be no mistake in your mind that if you want success you need failure. This is a huge factor in entrepreneurship that scares the majority of people out of it. Society has trained us to hold ourselves back out of fear of failure, but imagine how much we might accomplish if we just let that fear go.
Aside from life or death situations, what is the worst thing that can happen when you fail at something? Think about something you’re afraid to do because you’re afraid of failing, and then ask yourself that question. Is it going to affect your life in a dramatic way? Are there solutions you can take should failure occur? Ask yourself what you’re so afraid of.
learn from your failures
The biggest factor in deciding whether failure is a positive or negative experience is whether you decide to learn from it. One of my mentors told me that the most successful people fail 8 out of 10 times and use the lessons they learned those eight times to improve themselves and succeed those two times. Another mentor told me that doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is a sign of insanity. It’s taken me a while to really process these messages, but I’ve found they ring true to my life.
As an entrepreneur, I’ve had to learn (and am still learning) how to cope with failure. The best method I’ve figured out is to learn from each experience. Really analyze each success and each failure. Why did it happen, and what can you do differently to improve for next time? If you don’t learn from each experience, you’re never going to grow. You need both failures and successes in order to truly become successful in any area of life.
Don’t allow the world to scare you out of doing something because of the possibility of failure. Take it for what it is and use it to your advantage. See failure as an opportunity for growth and be persistent in your journey. If you take these steps in your process towards success in any area of life, you’re going to succeed. You don’t have to be perfect from the beginning. In fact, you don’t need to be perfect at any point in your journey. You just need to be willing to learn and develop into your best self.
Have you ever experienced a fear of failure? Where do you think it stems from for you and how are you working to overcome it? Let us know in the comments! And if you sign up for the free resource library (click the graphic above), you can access the “turn failure into opportunity” checklist to help you on this journey!